Tinder’s Podcast: DTR

Let’s talk about podcasts. Last week Emma and I were having a podcast party, and then I went home that night for some Googling of new podcasts to binge and then eventually fangirl over. I found The Atlantic’s 50 Best Podcasts of 2017, and was thinking that I would find these highly educated, influential, interesting, and new-age thinking podcasts…HA! Even sophisticated people promote guilty pleasure forms of entertainment, and that is just what DTR is. It’s so good, but so bad, but so good.

DTR, a podcast hosted by Jane Marie, is produced by Tinder, and yes, heavily advertises Tinder success (and some unsuccessful) stories and makes you want to download it and start swiping. Confession: it worked on me, because a few days ago I re-downloaded that stupid app. Anyways, the catch phrase of DTR is about “dating in the digital age”. And it’s actually really interesting.

Things I love about the show:

  • Sometimes they throw in some research into online dating approaches, and just some funny fun facts. Who would think to academicize online dating?! The novelty is highly entertaining, and my inner nerd that loves juxtaposition feeds off of this combo.
    • The most common GIF to start a conversation with is Joey from Friends saying “how you doing”
  • They include relatable dating advice to everyone: that’s PC for the entire spectrum of LGBTQ (and straight!). The episode ‘Logging Back In’ is perfect for heterosexual cis conservative-ish people with vanilla hobbies (like myself) who are curious about people completely their opposite. You want a self-proclaimed queer fat goth person who likes that her date makes jewelry out of human teeth and is open to polyamory? You got it. The beauty of diversity makes me glow with warm fuzzy feelings, and fascinates my brain with ideas about people who think so differently than I do.
  • The dating advice is solid. One episode opened with how most people feel like they don’t know what they’re doing when they date, but how everyone seems to have strong opinions about how do it. And then it navigates this strange oxymoronic narrative with good advice and some snappy comments.
    • also a public service chat with one guy that messed up a date and told him where he went wrong…it had something to do with being perceived as arrogant and self-absorbed.

Things I dislike about the show:

  • It’s really fake. Maybe it’s the magnitude of their thick American accents, or the commentary, but sometimes it just gets to be too much. For example, they follow people on their Tinder dates, record them, and then comment on bits. Of course anyone ethically being recorded for a podcast isn’t going to act “naturally” on a date. So most of the validity goes out the window.
  • A little too much PR. It’s unrealistic about Tinder’s actual reputation. The show focuses mostly on the pool of people looking for relationships, and is probably PR reactionary for their booty call rep. What about all those douchebags out there? Maybe I just haven’t gotten to that episode yet?
  • The content is shallow, as in the dates and matching people up, but so is some of the theoretical content as well. Such as calculating your mathematical beauty ratios. Way to make math superficial. Or explaining the psychology behind people rating their physical attractiveness 1-10 as usually 6 or 7 because they don’t want to put themselves down, but not be arrogant.

But at the end of the day, I would recommend it to anyone. It’s entertaining at its worst, and creative and helpful at its best. But don’t believe me, believe The Atlantic.


Click on the link to see for yourself!



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